Using the Five Love Languages on Your Wedding Day
Your camera-holding fairygodmother on how to make your partner feel SO loved.
Weddings are big, big days. In all the planning and timelines and guests, it can be so easy to forget to have special moments with your future spouse. Before and during your wedding, it's a good idea to not only plan a special moment or two with your forever person, but also to plan some special moments that are specific to how they receive love best. You're getting married because you love someone so deeply and I'm assuming you know them pretty well at this point. So use that knowledge to create a special moment even in the midst of all the things going on!
If you've never heard or taken the love languages test, there's a popular theory that there are five ways that we best give and receive love. These are words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. We all have a way that we receive love the best out of these five, and we all have ways that we give love the best out of these five. Obviously we can be a mix, but these are just some main ways that our partner can make us feel the most loved, and vice versa.
It might be a cute idea to just take the love languages test together! But, I bet that you can figure out each other's love languages just by thinking a little bit. Like if your partner loves when you go above and beyond with the chocolates and flowers on Valentine's day, they could feel most loved through gifts. If you feel loved when your partner helps you with chores, you may receive love best through acts of service. It's really about just how you give and receive love in the way that feels the most good!
And what better time to do something you know your partner will love then your wedding day? Here are some easy yet meaningful ways to show up for your partner's love language on your wedding day.
Words of Affirmation
If your partner loves words of affirmation, you could go out of your way to give them compliments, put some extra love into those vows, or even off to do private vows before the ones during the ceremony. Curate time that it's just you speaking love and sweetness over your future spouse.
You could leave a letter in their dressing room or a note in their car. Or, even collect a card with written well wishes from your entire wedding party or their family. If you're religious, having a group prayer or praying together might be really special to them too.
Quality Time
If your partner loves quality time, really make sure that you have some special moments away during your wedding day. This could be a last dance after everyone has gone home, private vows, or running away to grab a snack together between events. There's so many ways that you can curate a special quality moment with your partner, and it's good to have some sweet alone time with your soulmate anyway. It also might be good to leave a little more breathing room between events, so you have more time to savor the moment and just be together.
They may also love taking a step away from the crowd for some time just the two of you between the ceremony and the reception, or they may even enjoy getting ready with you. There's all sorts of moments that can go from hectic to quality if you decide to make it all about you and your partner.
Gift Giving
This may seem like one of the easiest love languages to incorporate in your wedding, but it's still something that should be intentional and meaningful. You could buy each other something special for the day, pick out their jewelry or tie for them, or maybe place a new bottle of their favorite perfume or a print of their favorite artist in their dressing room.
There's so many ways that you could include gift giving in your wedding day. You could make a big surprise moment during the reception where you uncover this beautiful necklace or a commissioned art piece of the two of you, or you could have a private special moment of a little hidden gift in their dressing room or a moment just the two of you to exchange gifts.
Acts of Service
If your partner loves to feel supported and loved through acts of service, make a point of being really attentive to their needs during your wedding day. Maybe offer to grab food for them, make sure they always have something to drink, or take one thing off their plate. Maybe take a little extra initiative to be touching base with a wedding planner, or any vendors that you know your spouse will be checking in with during the day. Be intentional about stepping up and helping your partner feel served throughout the day.
You could also do things like take their dress to the dry cleaners, shine their shoes the night before, pack them a little care kit for your wedding day, or just make sure you brought tissues to the altar.
Physical Touch
Make sure that there are some sweet, sweet moments between you and your partner on your wedding day. Maybe you could have a private dance with just the two of you, or just make your first dance a little longer. Make sure to hug them and kiss them throughout the day, and don't be afraid of the PDA! You may want to make that first kiss a little longer, or even plan a little private kiss break during your big day.
Be intentional about holding their hand while you read your vows, leaning on them as the toasts are read, and keeping your bodies close as you do your first dance.
There's so many feelings that I want for you on your wedding day, but one of the biggest is loved. Don't be afraid to go above and beyond for your partner, or have an open conversation about how you can create more loving moments during your wedding day together.



